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Your blood runs cold, as you try to take in the news that your loved one has cancer.
Finding out that a loved one has cancer can be an overwhelming experience, leaving you in a state of shock. You may feel frightened, angry or saddened by the news. You may even try to deny that this could happen to your loved one.
You quickly embark on a steep learning curve about cancer, medical terminology, treatment options, and wait anxiously with your loved one for test results or treatment outcomes. There are countless decisions to be made and financial hurdles to overcome.
You may feel ill equipped to support and care for your loved one, or feel guilty because you are not coping, when they are the one facing a life threatening disease. You may feel resentful that cancer has changed your lives and burdened you both. Your loved one is also going through physical and emotional changes due to the side effects of treatment, and you may feel at a loss to deal with these changes. All of these things leave you feeling exhausted.
You need help – every bit as much as your loved one and you need not face this alone.
It is important to acknowledge your feelings and to arrange for support for yourself, if you are to help your loved one.
CANSA offers counselling and you are welcome to join our Facebook Support Group CANSA Survivors – Champions of Hope for loved ones and patients. Here you can connect with others in a similar position and find valuable tips to help your loved one cope with treatment. Find more online resources to help your loved one…
Our partner, Evy Michalopoulos at Filotimo Cancer Project, and CANSA’s Prof Michael Herbst chatted via Zoom on Wednesday, 17 March at 15h00 about how to support friends or a loved one with cancer.Read more
CANSA Tele Counselling can be accessed via the CANSA Help Desk on 0800 22 66 22 toll free, to make an appointment with a CANSA counsellor. Or send an email to the Help Desk via firstname.lastname@example.orgRead more
Published: 21 Aug 2020 | Last Updated: 10 Mar 2021
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